Showing affection
Z highlights six simple ways to meet our wife’s need for our affection:
Touch her arm or knee when you talk with her. Your gentle touch communicates, “I’m here. You’re not alone. I enjoy you. I’ll take care of you.”- Make an effort to spend time alone together – go out for dinner, for a walk, or out for coffee. Show her (and others) that you enjoy the intimacy of being alone with her.
- Grab her hand and hold it when you’re out in public.
- Give her a kiss and a hug when you leave and return home.
- Don’t see every complaint as an attack. Women think as long as they feel the marriage is working, they can talk about it. On the other hand, most men feel the relationship isn’t working if they have to talk about it. Allow her to express what’s on her mind.
- Recognize her strong emotions as exclamation marks. When she is upset, angry, or frustrated, realize that these emotions are her way of letting you know how much the issue at hand matters to her.
At the risk of appearing crass, can I point out that with the possible, occasional exception of number two, these cost nothing but time, effort, and consideration.
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